Success. What does that even mean? Is it a big bank account? Exotic cars? Maybe a big house on a hill? The world tends to paint an image of success that includes money, fame, and power. But what if success, in its true essence, is something very much unlike those worldly attributes? True success is an intimate and ever-changing journey. It’s about your values, your growth, and your giving back.
Beyond the Material: A Shift in Perspective
We often think that all the ‘stuff’ will bring us happiness. But is that really the case? Let’s look at why seeking after material possession can bring only emptiness.
External Validation Poisoning
Do you ever seek the approval of others? Seeking approval itself is a trap, a path to unhappiness, and a loss of who you truly are. Think of social media. There is so much pressure for everybody to look ‘perfect’ on these platforms. Those likes and comments are sought after but are actually a vicious cycle—there is no end to it. This very thought distracts you from hearing your own voice.
A Brief Insight into the Hedonic Treadmill
Have you heard of the term “hedonic treadmill”? It is, in fact, a grand-sounding term for a very simple concept. We are quick to adapt to new things. That new car? The joy faded really fast. Always wanting something more. Studies have shown that even lottery winners are not happy for long. They get used to the money and want yet more.
Identifying Your Core Values: Your Road Map to Success
What really matters for you? Your core values identify your compass. When you act in alignment with your beliefs, you are able to build a life of meaning.
Being Reflective in Action
Reflect on personal values for some time. What do you love to do? What are your deciding principles?
- What do I stand for?
- What am I willing to fight for?
- If I were not constrained by money, what would I choose to do with my time?
Living in Alignment
Imagine an artsy person. It will be fulfilling to go for a job that allows some creativity. Life is fulfilling when your work responds to what truly matters to you. It is about harmony. Valuing your very existence gives you purpose.
Growth and Learning: Enjoying the Journey
Life is all about more than just destinations; it is more about learning and challenging and stretching oneself. Now personal growth is an integral part of true success.
High Price for Self-Discovery
Carol Dweck’s research shows the power of a growth mindset. They see challenges as opportunities. A growth mindset helps you achieve your goals.
Learning from Failure
Nobody likes to fail at doing something. But failure is, indeed, a teacher; it teaches you what does not work. Most successful people have failed a great number of times before they could reach that stage. Just consider the case of an entrepreneur. They suffer and learn, and then move on.
Making a Meaningful Contribution: The Impact You Want to Have
Success means not only you but also others. Difference in the world he makes is deep satisfaction.
Define Your Contribution
How can you make a difference? It’s time to think about your strengths and your passions. What is it that you can do well? What is it that you actually care about? Then think of what you could do with that for the benefit of others.
The Rippling Effect
Even a little act of kindness is material. It could cause ripples. To volunteer in one’s local charity could help make a great difference in someone’s life. Your deed could encourage others to do good.
Define Your Success
It does not really stand concretely. Life is never the same. You are not the same either. And neither should your success change. That which was significant to you at 20 may not be important anymore at 40.
Reassess Regularly
Take the time to check in with yourself now and again. Are you still on the right track? Are those goals you’ve set still in line with who you are? If they’re not, maybe it’s time to change direction. Schedule regular check-ins with yourself on how your journey is going and if changes need to take place.
Accepting Change and Uncertainty
Life is also likely to throw unexpected changes at one. The ability to adapt is crucial. Moving from one career to another can be frightening but may well lead to fantastic growth. Seize the opportunity without any reservations.
Conclusion: Your Personal Definition of Success Awaits
True success is not money or fame; it is meaning, purpose. It is personal and continuously changing. Understand your values, grow, contribute, and adapt when necessary. What success means to you? Live a fulfilling life, then, by living life to define your own path.
